Quote:
Ideally, a family should follow the four "bhais" - Bhashan, Bhajan, Bhojan & Bhraman - conversation, prayer, eating and outing. - Swami Nikhilananda
Coping with uncertainty:
There are two ways to cope with uncertainty - acceptance & resistance.
Acceptance means that you allow events to unfold around you and react to them spontaneously, without suppression. Resistance means that you try to change events from what they really are and react to them with familiar, safe responses. Acceptance is healthy as it permits you to clear any stress as soon as it occurs. Resistance is unhealthy as it builds up residues of frustration, false expectaitons and unfulfilled desires. Stored up feelings are essentially emotional debt.
Staying in control:
There is a health & unhealthy way of staying in control. The healthy way is to be secure enough in yourself, meaning your worth, lovability and achievements that outside events do not threaten your coping skills. The unhealthy way is to manipulate people and events so that your weakness and insecurity are covered over. Self knowledge is the anchor that makes predictability tolerable.
A wise person once said,"If my approach to a situation isn't working, I have faith that there is more to learn. Eitehr someone else can provide me with help or the flow of events will reveal what is needed. In either case, I won't get to the solution until I first admit that my response isn't perfect.
GK - Xmas:
Santa's team of nine reindeers - Rudolph, Dasher, Dancer, Prancer, Vixen, Comet, Cupid, Donner and Blitzen
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